Journeymen

• On the Culture of Raising Children by Urie Bronfenbrenner, Syracuse Post-Standard, 1996.
"We've got all kinds of forces that are interfering and blocking the process of civilizing human beings and making them competent and responsible"

• The Epidemic: The Rot of American Culture, Abesentee and Permissive Parenting, and the Resultant Plague of Joyless, Selfish Children
by Robert Shaw, M.D., Harper-Collins, 2003.
"What do all these things have in common? They are signs that our society has become toxic to children."

• Seven Sources of Shame from Men Healing Shame; An Anthology
by Roy Schenk & John Everingham, Springer Publishing, 1995.
An essay on the internalization of shame: "Suppose that one hasn't ever experienced the normal vulnerability of being with another human being (who) haven't experienced being psychically open in the presence of another person…The only vulnerability they know is the vulnerability of being shamed."…To sum up maintained shame, or internalized shame, we could say that at a certain pint, we don't need other people to shame us; we can do it ourselves."

• Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen
by Dr. David Walsh, Free Press, 2004.
"The average teenage boy in the United states, school age, spends an average of 44 hours a week in front of some kind of screen; T.V, computer or video game…The average school age boy in the United States spends just 1 hour a week in face to face alone time with his father."

• Real Boy's Voices
by William S. Pollack, Random House, 2000.
"The most resounding message I hear is just how alone and disconnected these boys are and how pressured they feel to keep their true feelings secret, to hide huge parts of themselves from peers and family."

• Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them
by James Garbarino, First Anchor, 2000.
"We need to go deeper into the special character of depression as it develops and affects boys; in particular, we need to understand its links to anger."

• When Society Becomes an Addict
by Anne Wilson Schaef, Harper San Francisco, 1987.
The symptons associated with relationship addiction provide telling insights into why we have a dysfunctional society many of whose members are addicted to substances and processes.

• Unhappy Teenagers: A Way for Parents and Teachers to Reach Them
by William Glasser M.D., Harper Collins, 2000.
"The seeds of almost all our unhappiness are planted early in our lives when we begin to encounter people who have discovered not only what is right for them—but also, unfortunately, what is right for us."

• Raising Non-violent Children in a Violent World
by Michael Obsatz, Augsburg Fortress, 1999.
Identifies twenty-one skills that parents and children can learn together for self-protection and for relating to others in loving ways. Each short chapter includes advice for parents, a word to children, and a variety of interactive activities by which families can practice these important skills and learn to live as peacemakers. http://www.angeresources.com/mike.html

• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
by Daniel J. Kindlon & Michael Thompson, Ballantine Books, 2000.
A look at a cross section of American boys at various emotional and functionality levels, and a study of the people plus processes that help them become full men.

• Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood
by William Pollack, Owl Books, 1999.
Based on Pollack's groundbreaking research at Harvard Medical School and elsewhere over two decades, Real Boys explores this generation's "silent crisis"; why so many boys are sad, lonely, and confused although they may appear tough, cheerful, and confident.